{"id":8154,"date":"2019-10-02T09:42:59","date_gmt":"2019-10-02T09:42:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kynaforkids.vn\/blog\/?p=8154"},"modified":"2020-05-25T03:09:57","modified_gmt":"2020-05-25T03:09:57","slug":"9-kieu-cha-me-se-co-con-thanh-dat-trong-cong-viec","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kynaforkids.vn\/blog\/9-kieu-cha-me-se-co-con-thanh-dat-trong-cong-viec.html","title":{"rendered":"9 ki\u1ec3u cha m\u1eb9 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 con th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 d\u01b0ng m\u00e0 tr\u1ebb n\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra ph\u1ea7n nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ee9a con th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t<\/strong> c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m chung c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1eadc cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

1. H\u1ecd cho tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

“N\u1ebfu l\u0169 tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng r\u1eeda b\u00e1t, th\u00ec c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y h\u1ed9 ch\u00fang. Khi \u0111\u00f3, tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c mi\u1ec5n tr\u1eeb kh\u1ecfi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, m\u00e0 ch\u00fang c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m, v\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i g\u00f3p s\u1ee9c m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a t\u1ed5ng th\u1ec3”<\/em>, Julie Lythcott-Haims, chuy\u00ean gia t\u1eeb \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Standford v\u00e0 l\u00e0 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 cu\u1ed1n “How to Raise an Adult”, nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ecbnh.<\/p>\n

Lythcott-Haims tin r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb l\u1edbn l\u00ean c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng nh\u00e2n vi\u00ean bi\u1ebft h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c sau n\u00e0y v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m h\u01a1n, b\u1edfi ch\u00fang nh\u1eadn ra kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb1ng sau m\u1eb7t ngo\u00e0i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

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Con th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

“B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c cho tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 – \u0111\u1ed5 r\u00e1c, t\u1ef1 g\u1eadp \u0111\u1ed3… – tr\u1ebb nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng”<\/em>, b\u00e0 n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

2. H\u1ecd d\u1ea1y con k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng t\u1eeb khi tr\u1ebb c\u00f2n \u1edf tu\u1ed5i m\u1eabu gi\u00e1o nh\u01b0 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, chia s\u1ebb, \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m, t\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1… gi\u00fap tr\u1ebb th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u k\u00e9o d\u00e0i 20 n\u0103m c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u1eeb \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc bang Pennsylvania v\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Duke, theo d\u00f5i h\u01a1n 700 tr\u1ebb t\u1eeb tu\u1ed5i nh\u00e0 tr\u1ebb \u0111\u1ebfn tu\u1ed5i 25.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi thi\u1ebfu c\u00e1c k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i tr\u00ean c\u0169ng c\u00f3 t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 cao h\u01a1n b\u1ecb b\u1eaft, ch\u00ecm trong nghi\u1ec7n ng\u1eadp, ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng nh\u1edd tr\u1ee3 c\u1ea5p…<\/p>\n

“Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u00e0y cho th\u1ea5y gi\u00fap tr\u1ebb ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb cho m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb”<\/em>, Kristin Schubert, gi\u00e1m \u0111\u1ed1c ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a qu\u1ef9 Robert Wood Johnson – qu\u1ef9 t\u00e0i tr\u1ee3 cho nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u tr\u00ean, cho bi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

“T\u1eeb r\u1ea5t s\u1edbm, c\u00e1c k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc hay \u0111i t\u00f9, r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tuy\u1ec3n d\u1ee5ng hay tr\u1edf n\u00ean nghi\u1ec7n ng\u1eadp”.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. H\u1ecd tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00fang m\u1ef1c v\u00e0o con<\/strong><\/h2>\n

S\u1eed d\u1ee5ng d\u1eef li\u1ec7u t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t qu\u1ed1c gia tr\u00ean 6.600 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb sinh n\u0103m 2001, gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Neal Halfon v\u00e0 c\u1ed9ng s\u1ef1 t\u1eeb \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Los Angeles (bang California) \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng m\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9<\/strong> \u0111\u1eb7t l\u00ean tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1edbn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 trau d\u1ed3i ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n

“Nh\u1eefng \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1eb7t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a con l\u00e0 \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edbng tr\u1ebb \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 thu nh\u1eadp c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ra sao”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf ch\u1ee9ng minh \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3: 57% c\u00e1c tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m b\u00e0i ki\u1ec3m tra k\u00e9m nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 cha m\u1eb9 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng con h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, trong khi 96% s\u1ed1 tr\u1ebb l\u00e0m b\u00e0i t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 cha m\u1eb9 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng con \u0111\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc.<\/p>\n

N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, tr\u1ebb s\u1ed1ng theo k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n

4. V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng h\u00f2a thu\u1eadn<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Tr\u1ebb s\u1ed1ng trong c\u00e1c gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00e3i v\u00e3, \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp, th\u00ec d\u00f9 gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n hay \u0111\u00e3 ly h\u00f4n, v\u1eabn c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00e0m \u0103n k\u00e9m \u0111i so v\u1edbi tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 cha m\u1eb9 h\u00f2a thu\u1eadn.<\/p>\n

5. Tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n t\u1ed1t<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2014 c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Michigan t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 t\u1eebng t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p trung h\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con<\/a><\/strong> c\u0169ng c\u00f3 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

“Tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u00fac con 8 tu\u1ed5i c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb ch\u1ec9 b\u00e1o quan tr\u1ecdng cho s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u1ec1 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a con 40 n\u0103m sau \u0111\u00f3”<\/em>, nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Eric Dubow cho bi\u1ebft tr\u00ean m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u d\u00e0i h\u01a1i n\u0103m 2009.<\/p>\n

6. H\u1ecd x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi c\u00e1c con<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2014 tr\u00ean 243 ng\u01b0\u1eddi sinh ra trong ngh\u00e8o kh\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng tr\u1ebb nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c “s\u1ef1 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c t\u1eadn t\u00ecnh” trong 3 n\u0103m \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m c\u00e1c b\u00e0i thi h\u1ecdc thu\u1eadt t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 sau, m\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1t k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 h\u1ecdc thu\u1eadt t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n trong \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 30.<\/p>\n

“\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 cho th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i t\u1eeb th\u1ee7a ban \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch l\u0169y l\u00e2u d\u00e0i cho m\u1ed7i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n”<\/em>, \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u – nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd Lee Raby cho bi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

7. H\u1ecd \u00edt khi b\u1ecb stress<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Theo m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1eabn ra tr\u00ean Washington Post, s\u1ed1 gi\u1edd c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi con \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 3 – 11 \u00edt c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh vi hay s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ki\u1ec3u l\u00e0m cha m\u1eb9<\/strong> \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00f2n g\u00e2y h\u1ea1i h\u01a1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 stress c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi m\u1eb9 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm th\u1eddi gian ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi con, th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ngh\u00e8o \u0111\u00f3i c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb v\u1ec1 sau, \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u, nh\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i h\u1ecdc Kei Nomaguchi nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ecbnh.<\/p>\n

8. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Nh\u1eefng b\u1eadc cha m\u1eb9 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u1eafng tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi gi\u00e1, kh\u00f4ng coi th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i l\u00e0 b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 k\u00e9m th\u00f4ng minh, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn l\u00ean v\u00e0 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng c\u00e1c k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng.<\/p>\n

9. M\u1eb9 \u0111i l\u00e0m<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Theo nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a Tr\u01b0\u1eddng kinh doanh Harvard, vi\u1ec7c m\u1eb9 \u0111i l\u00e0m \u1edf b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i nh\u00e0 mang l\u1ea1i l\u1ee3i \u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 cho nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con. C\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, con g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 \u0111i l\u00e0m th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e2u h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0m qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd, v\u00e0 ki\u1ebfm nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n h\u01a1n (kho\u1ea3ng 23%) so v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u1ee9a c\u00f3 m\u1eb9 \u1edf nh\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n.<\/p>\n

Con trai c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 \u0111i l\u00e0m c\u0169ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, vi\u1ec7c m\u1eb9 \u0111i l\u00e0m n\u00eau m\u1ed9t g\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t cho c\u00e1c con noi theo, trong nhi\u1ec1u l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

Thu\u1eadn An (theo Independent)<\/p>\n

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